List books in category Parenting & Families / Conflict Resolution

  • The Passion Generation: The Seemingly Reckless, Definitely Disruptive, But Far From Hopeless Millennials

    The Passion Generation: The Seemingly Reckless, Definitely Disruptive, But Far From Hopeless Millennials
    Grant Skeldon

    Millennials have disrupted almost every major industry. Whether you’re a parent trying to raise them, a pastor trying to reach them, or an employer trying to retain them, they’re disruptive. As the largest living generation, millennials are one of the most studied but misunderstood groups of our day. And the chasm between the generations is only getting wider.Speaker and founder of the Initiative Network Grant Skeldon pulls back the confusing statistics about millennials to reveal the root issue: it’s not a millennial problem, it’s a discipleship problem. Millennials are known for their struggle to hold jobs, reluctance to live on their own, and alarming migration away from the church. And now our culture is feeling the results of a mentor-less, fatherless generation. But how do you start discipling young people when you struggle to connect with them?Written by a millennial, The Passion Generation will guide you beyond the stats of what millennials are doing to the why they’re doing it and how we can all move toward healthy community. With wit, compassion, and startling insights, this book shares stories and studies drawn from Skeldon’s years of working to bridge generational gaps. In his signature conversational style, Skeldon offers researched strategies that will spark healthy connections, and practical methods that will help you disciple the millennials you love.This book is your guide to understanding the millennials in your life who are seemingly reckless but far from hopeless, for the future of the church that depends on them.

  • The Little Book of Restorative Discipline for Schools: Teaching Responsibility; Creating Caring Climates

    The Little Book of Restorative Discipline for Schools: Teaching Responsibility; Creating Caring Climates
    Lorraine Stutzman Amstutz

    Can community-building begin in a classroom? The authors of this book believe that by applying restorative justice at school, we can build a healthier and more just society. With practical applications and models.Can an overworked teacher possibly turn an unruly incident with students into an "opportunity for learning, growth, and community-building"? If restorative justice has been able to salvage lives within the world of criminal behavior, why shouldn't its principles be applied in school classrooms and cafeterias? And if our children learn restorative practices early and daily, won't we be building a healthier, more just society?Two educators answer yes, yes, and yes in this new addition to The Little Books of Justice and Peacebuilding series. Amstutz and Mullet offer applications and models. "Discipline that restores is a process to make things as right as possible." This Little Book shows how to get there.

  • Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting

    Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
    Laura Markham

    A groundbreaking guide to raising responsible, capable, happy kids Based on the latest research on brain development and extensive clinical experience with parents, Dr. Laura Markham’s approach is as simple as it is effective. Her message: Fostering emotional connection with your child creates real and lasting change. When you have that vital connection, you don’t need to threaten, nag, plead, bribe—or even punish. This remarkable guide will help parents better understand their own emotions—and get them in check—so they can parent with healthy limits, empathy, and clear communication to raise a self-disciplined child. Step-by-step examples give solutions and kid-tested phrasing for parents of toddlers right through the elementary years. If you’re tired of power struggles, tantrums, and searching for the right “consequence,” look no further. You’re about to discover the practical tools you need to transform your parenting in a positive, proven way.

  • Trapped in the Mirror

    Trapped in the Mirror
    Elan Golomb, PhD

    In this compelling book, Elan Golomb identifies the crux of the emotional and psychological problems of millions of adults. Simply put, the children of narcissist—offspring of parents whose interest always towered above the most basic needs of their sons and daughters—share a common belief: They believe they do not have the right to exist.The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways: for examples, physical self-loathing that takes form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult's interaction with his or her own children. These dilemmas are both common and correctable, Dr. Golomb tells us.With an empathic blend of scholarship and case studies, along with her own personal narrative of her fight for self, Dr. Golomb plumbs the depths of this problem, revealing its mysterious hold on the affairs of otherwise bright, aware, motivated, and worthy people. Trapped in the Mirror explores.the nature of the paralysis and lack of motivation so many adults feelstress and its role in exacerbating childhood wrongswhy do many of our relationships seem to be "reruns" of the pasthow one's body image can be formed by faulty parentinghow anger must be acknowledge to be overcomeand, most important, how even the most traumatized self can be healed.Rooted in a profoundly humanist traditional approach, and suffused with the benefit of the latest knowledge about intrafamily relationships, Trapped in the Mirror offers more than the average self-help book; it is truly the first self-heal book for millions.

  • Generational IQ for the Workplace and Home Collection

    Generational IQ for the Workplace and Home Collection
    Haydn Shaw

    This collection bundles 2 of popular author Haydn Shaw’s books together in one e-book, for a great value!Sticking PointsThis is the first time in American history that we have had four different generations working side-by-side in the workplace: the Traditionalists (born before 1945), the Baby Boomers (born 1945-1964), Gen X (born 1965-1980), and the Millennials (born 1981-2001).Haydn Shaw, popular business speaker and generational expert, has identified 12 places where the 4 generations typically come apart in the workplace (and in life as well). These sticking points revolve around differing attitudes toward managing one’s own time, texting, social media, organizational structure, and of course, clothing preferences. If we don’t learn to work together and stick together around these 12 sticking points, then we’ll be wasting a lot of time fighting each other instead of enjoying a friendly and productive team. Sticking Points is a must-read book that will help you understand the generational differences you encounter while teaching how we can learn to speak one another’s language and get better results together.Generational IQWhy is my daughter drifting from God? Why can’t I explain my life choices to my parents? When will my son get a real job?Within the last several decades, the world has shifted dramatically. The cracks of this fundamental shift appear everywhere: in our economy, in our cultural debates, in our political landscape, and, most important, in our churches. The problem is we tend to overreact to these changes, fearing that Christianity is dying. We need better Generational IQ, so we can respond to the changes but not be terrified by them. We need a wise generational coach. Haydn Shaw is that generational expert, showing us the roots of this generational shift and how it affects every one of us. Each generation, whether it’s the aging Boomers or the young Millennials, approaches God with a different set of questions and needs based on the times in which they grew up. Haydn walks you through these generational differences and paints a vision of hope for the future.

  • Codependent No More by Melody Beattie: Summary and Analysis

    Codependent No More by Melody Beattie: Summary and Analysis
    SpeedReader Summaries

    Your Quick and Simple Summary and Analysis of Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Inside, you’ll find:An introduction to the main concepts in Codependent No More by Melody BeattieTime-saving chapter summaries with action steps and adviceReview questions and commentaryA guide to additional resources, including helpful articles, books, podcasts, printables, videos, and quizzesAbout Codependent No More by Melody BeattieCodependent No More was the debut book of bestselling author Melody Beattie. Originally published in 1986 by the Hazelden Foundation, Beattie’s book became a phenomenon of the self-help movement, selling over eight million copies, six million of them in the United States.According to Bettie, codependency in relationships results from our desire to rescue people. She believes that this desire is counter-productive, and that our efforts to rescue people might actually do more harm than good, both for ourselves and our loved ones.Please note that this summary is NOT the original book and is meant to be read as a supplement to the original. About SpeedReader SummariesThanks so much for your interest in SpeedReader Summaries! We strive to save what is your most precious and limited resource–time.Do you ever feel like you just want your favorite non-fiction books to get to the point? Are you tired of wasting time weeding through fluff and anecdotes to get to the meat of the material?SpeedReader Summaries carefully distill and analyze the key points of your favorite books and provide additional commentary and resources to supplement your understanding of the material. Inside every SpeedReader summary, you’ll find a thirty-second overall summary of the book, brief summaries of the key points of each chapter, a custom analysis, and additional resources like discussion questions, relevant articles, other books, and even quizzes.At SpeedReader Summaries, bringing you maximum benefit in minimum time is our main objective!Tags: codependent no more, codependent no more 2006, codependent no more beattie, codependent no more book, codependent no more by melody beattie, codependent no more ebook, codependent no more how to stop controlling others, codependent no more melody beattie, codependent no more summary, co dependant no more melody beattie, melody beattie, melody beattie beyond codependency, melody beattie books, melody beattie codependent no more, melody beattie dependant more, melody beattie dependant no, melody beattie no dependant

  • The Self-Centered Marriage: The Revolutionary ScreamFree Approach to Rebuilding Your We by Reclaiming Your I

    The Self-Centered Marriage: The Revolutionary ScreamFree Approach to Rebuilding Your “We” by Reclaiming Your “I”
    Hal Runkel, LMFT

    In the best-selling ScreamFree Parenting, Hal Runkel showed thousands of parents how focusing on themselves, in order to keep their cool, can revolutionize their family life. In his groundbreaking new book, The Self-Centered Marriage, Runkel now shows couples how learning to focus on themselves, in order to stay calm in the face of common marital conflicts, is the key to creating a deep, lifelong connection. Every committed couple strives to hold on to the marriage they envisioned back when they first said "I do"–before kids, mortgages, and all of life's inescapable issues seemed to get in the way. But the truth is this: conflict about these issues is unavoidable. What typically results are two spouses feeling forced to compromise themselves in order to just get along and keep it together. Eventually couples start "screaming" at each other–sometimes literally yelling out loud, sometimes shutting themselves down and shutting their partners out. In The Self-Centered Marriage, therapist and bestselling author Hal Runkel introduces some radical new concepts about marriage, teaching couples how to embrace their separate selves as a profound vehicle for strengthening a marriage. Every great marriage is a self-centered marriage because it's a bond between two whole, centered people. Calmly focusing on your own behavior, choices, and moods—which you can control—rather than your spouse’s—which you cannot—is the first step toward creating the relationship you really crave. Using accessible anecdotes and disarming humor, Runkel disproves prevailing marital wisdom and reveals a revolutionary path for spouses to be fully themselves, and fully married, at the same time.

  • Virtue-Based Restorative Discipline: Comprehensive Guide

    Virtue-Based Restorative Discipline: Comprehensive Guide
    Lynne M. Lang

    "This faith-filled approach to addressing bullying and other disruptive behaviors stands as an exemplary model for our parishes, homes and schools." – The Most Reverend Robert J. Carlson, Archbishop of St. LouisAn age-old problem is now a golden opportunity!From inspiring kids to performing simple acts of kindness, to helping teachers recognize warning signs, to empowering parents, Virtue-Based Restorative Discipline helps put an end to bullying issues and restores a safe, positive, and welcoming environment for all. Designed to decrease anti-social behaviors and increase faith practices, this unique program, as developed in the Archdiocese of St. Louis, moves away from punitive methods of dealing with anti-social behavior, getting to the root cause of the issue.Lays a foundation of spirituality for parents and kidsEducates children on virtues and integrates them as part of the solutionStrengthens relationships with God and othersCreates high accountability and high responsibility for solving conflicts."We are encouraged by the changes we have seen in adults and students as we strengthen Catholic identity." — George Henry, Superintendent for Catholic Education, Archdiocese of St. Louis "When I hear my students tell me they see me showing virtue in an action, I know they understand, even as young as second grade." Nina Ashby, Teacher, Holy Trinity School"It is a program on bullying, yet we're truly working to grow in faith and love. Well worth it!" — Ben H., Parent at St. Peter School, Kirkwood, MO"I get to do something that makes me think about my actions and help others to learn from my mistakes. I hardly ever get in trouble anymore." — Juan, an 8th grader at Holy Trinity SchoolLynne Lang is director of school climate for the Archdiocese of St. Louis. An experienced Catholic educator and author, she has worked for 15 years in the fields of violence prevention, health education and curriculum development.

  • 1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting, Edition 6

    1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting, Edition 6
    Thomas Phelan

    "Dr. Phelan's strategies have seen a resurgence in the parenting world. Maybe that's why you feel like everywhere you go, you keep overhearing other moms say to their misbehaving children, 'That's one. That's two. That's three.' And then you watch in disbelief as their kid actually stops!" — PopSugar MomsAre you the parent of a strong-willed child? Is bedtime a nightly battle? Are you looking to discipline without stress?Since kids don't come with a manual, 1-2-3 Magic is the next best thing. Dr. Thomas Phelan has developed a quick, simple and scientifically proven way to parent that actually works!Using his signature 1-2-3 counting method, Dr. Phelan helps parents to curb obnoxious behaviors like tantrums and meltdowns, whining and pouting, talking back, sibling rivalry and more in toddlers, preschoolers and middle schoolers. He guides parents through drama-free discipline methods that include handling time outs in public, the appropriate length of a time out, and what to do if your child resists the time out.Dr. Phelan also covers how to establish positive routines around bedtime, dinnertime, homework and getting up and out in the morning, and tips for strengthening your relationship with your kids.For decades, millions of parents from all over the world have used the award-winning 1-2-3 Magic technique to raise happier families and put the fun back into parenting. 1-2-3 Magic is one of Healthline's Best Parenting Books of 2017, a 2016 Mom's Choice Award Winner, a 2016 National Parenting Product Award Winner and a 2016 Family Choice Award Winner.

  • Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma

    Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma
    Nancy Samalin

    Winner of Child Magazine's Best Parenting Boo of 1991. "An honest look at how children can drive the most loving parent to periodic madness, along with practical suggestions for how to cope."—Adele Faber.

  • We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter

    We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter
    Celeste Headlee

    “WE NEED TO TALK.”In this urgent and insightful book, public radio journalist Celeste Headlee shows us how to bridge what divides us–by having real conversationsBASED ON THE TED TALK WITH OVER 10 MILLION VIEWSNPR's Best Books of 2017Winner of the 2017 Silver Nautilus Award in Relationships & Communication “We Need to Talk is an important read for a conversationally-challenged, disconnected age. Headlee is a talented, honest storyteller, and her advice has helped me become a better spouse, friend, and mother.” (Jessica Lahey, author of New York Times bestseller The Gift of Failure)Today most of us communicate from behind electronic screens, and studies show that Americans feel less connected and more divided than ever before. The blame for some of this disconnect can be attributed to our political landscape, but the erosion of our conversational skills as a society lies with us as individuals. And the only way forward, says Headlee, is to start talking to each other. In We Need to Talk, she outlines the strategies that have made her a better conversationalist—and offers simple tools that can improve anyone’s communication. For example: BE THERE OR GO ELSEWHERE. Human beings are incapable of multitasking, and this is especially true of tasks that involve language. Think you can type up a few emails while on a business call, or hold a conversation with your child while texting your spouse? Think again.CHECK YOUR BIAS. The belief that your intelligence protects you from erroneous assumptions can end up making you more vulnerable to them. We all have blind spots that affect the way we view others. Check your bias before you judge someone else.HIDE YOUR PHONE. Don’t just put down your phone, put it away. New research suggests that the mere presence of a cell phone can negatively impact the quality of a conversation. Whether you’re struggling to communicate with your kid’s teacher at school, an employee at work, or the people you love the most—Headlee offers smart strategies that can help us all have conversations that matter.

  • Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: Practical Guide for Improving Communication

    Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: Practical Guide for Improving Communication
    John Gray

    The most well-know, long-lived, and tried-and-tested relationships guide ever, the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus is now available for the first time ever as an ebook. In this classic guide to understanding the opposite sex, Dr. John Gray provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication by acknowledging the differences between their needs, desires, and behaviors. No other relationship guide on the market will give you the same level of evidence-based insight sure to help you strengthen and nurture your relationships for years to come.

  • Tell Me More: Stories About the 12 Hardest Things I m Learning to Say

    Tell Me More: Stories About the 12 Hardest Things I’m Learning to Say
    Kelly Corrigan

    NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A story-driven collection of essays on the twelve powerful phrases we use to sustain our relationships, from the bestselling author of Glitter and Glue and The Middle Place “Kelly Corrigan takes on all the big, difficult questions here, with great warmth and courage.”—Glennon DoyleNAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY REAL SIMPLE AND BUSTLEIt’s a crazy idea: trying to name the phrases that make love and connection possible. But that’s just what Kelly Corrigan has set out to do here. In her New York Times bestselling memoirs, Corrigan distilled our core relationships to their essences, showcasing a warm, easy storytelling style. Now, in Tell Me More, she’s back with a deeply personal, unfailingly honest, and often hilarious examination of the essential phrases that turn the wheel of life. In “I Don’t Know,” Corrigan wrestles to make peace with uncertainty, whether it’s over invitations that never came or a friend’s agonizing infertility. In “No,” she admires her mother’s ability to set boundaries and her liberating willingness to be unpopular. In “Tell Me More,” a facialist named Tish teaches her something important about listening. And in “I Was Wrong,” she comes clean about her disastrous role in a family fight—and explains why saying sorry may not be enough. With refreshing candor, a deep well of empathy, and her signature desire to understand “the thing behind the thing,” Corrigan swings between meditations on life with a preoccupied husband and two mercurial teenage daughters to profound observations on love and loss. With the streetwise, ever-relatable voice that defines Corrigan’s work, Tell Me More is a moving and meaningful take on the power of the right words at the right moment to change everything.Praise for Tell Me More “It is such a comfort just knowing that Kelly Corrigan exists: she is somehow both wise and self-deprecating; funny but unafraid of pain; frank but gentle. She is the sister/mother/best friend we all wish we could have—and because of this big-hearted book, we all get to.”—Ariel Levy, author of The Rules Do Not Apply “With full-bodied humor and radical sensitivity, Kelly Corrigan transforms the mundane pain of life into a necessary spiritual text of sorts, one that reminds us that we have the right to grieve but the obligation to be grateful. This book will remind you that you are human—and of the fragile loveliness of being so.”—Lena Dunham

  • After the Affair, Updated Second Edition: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful

    After the Affair, Updated Second Edition: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
    Janis A. Spring

    “Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book—a gift to us all.”—Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger“It is ‘must’ reading for any couple who has experienced the violation of trust as a result of an affair.”—Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. A staggering number of couples in America—about 70 percent—have been affected by extramarital affairs. After the Affair is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship. Written by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., a nationally known therapist and acknowledged expert on infidelity, this revised and updated version brings the groundbreaking classic into the 21st century, with a new section dealing with online affairs in cyberspace. For women who are struggling in their marriage—and for clinicians, psychology academics and readers fascinated by of popular psychology—this newly revised and updated edition of After the Affair is essential reading.

  • Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

    Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After
    Katherine Woodward Thomas

    And Then They Lived Happily… We enter our romantic relationships with great love, hope, and excitement–we've found the 'one', so we plan and forge our futures together. But sometimes, for many different reasons, relationships come undone; they don't work out. Commonly, we view this as a personal failure, rather than an opportunity. And instead of honoring what we once meant to each other, we hoard bitterness and anger, stewing in shame and resentment. Sometimes even lashing out in destructive and hurtful ways, despite the fact that we’re good people at heart. That's natural: we're almost biologically primed to respond this way. Yet there is another path to the end of a relationship–one filled with mutual respect, kindness, and deep caring. Katherine Woodward Thomas's groundbreaking method, Conscious Uncoupling, provides the valuable skills and tools for you to travel this challenging terrain with these five thoughtful and thought-provoking steps: Step 1: Find Emotional FreedomStep 2: Reclaim Your Power and Your LifeStep 3: Break the Pattern, Heal Your HeartStep 4: Become a Love AlchemistStep 5: Create Your Happy Even After Life This paradigm-shifting guide will steer you away from a bitter end and toward a new life that’s empowered and flourishing.

  • Between Parent and Child: Revised and Updated: The Bestselling Classic That Revolutionized Parent-Child Communication

    Between Parent and Child: Revised and Updated: The Bestselling Classic That Revolutionized Parent-Child Communication
    Dr. Haim G. Ginott

    Strengthen your relationship with your children with this revised edition of the book by renowned psychologist Dr. Haim Ginott that has helped millions of parents around the world. In this revised edition, Dr. Alice Ginott, clinical psychologist and wife of the late Haim Ginott, and family relationship specialist Dr. H. Wallace Goddard usher this bestselling classic into the new century while retaining the book’s positive message and Haim Ginott’s warm, accessible voice. Based on the theory that parenting is a skill that can be learned, this indispensable handbook will show you how to: • Discipline without threats, bribes, sarcasm, and punishment • Criticize without demeaning, praise without judging, and express anger without hurting • Acknowledge rather than argue with children’s feelings, perceptions, and opinions • Respond so that children will learn to trust and develop self-confidenceThis revolutionary book offered a straightforward prescription for empathetic yet disciplined child rearing and introduced new communication techniques that would change the way parents spoke with, and listened to, their children. Dr. Ginott’s innovative approach to parenting has influenced an entire generation of experts in the field, and now his methods can work for you, too.

  • The Stepmoms Club: How to Be a Stepmom without Losing Your Money, Your Mind, and Your Marriage

    The Stepmoms’ Club: How to Be a Stepmom without Losing Your Money, Your Mind, and Your Marriage
    Kendall Rose

    The tips, tricks and support you need to survive stepmotherhoodYou've met the partner of your dreams and have gotten your happily ever after, but now you've taken on a new role: stepmom. And you have no idea what you signed up for. Or maybe you've been a stepmom for a while now, but things are getting you down. Who do you turn to for help? Where is the stepmothering support group that'll give you the advice you need? Who actually gets how hard being a stepmom can be?We do. We are the women who have chosen stepmotherhood and lived to tell the tale. This guide holds our solutions to help you: Brave the crazy ex demands Overcome the financial hurdles of a blended family Be prepared for the legal battles and custody arrangements Handle disrespectful children Nourish your relationship Manuever the emotional breakdowns of stepmotherhood Build your own stepmom's club Understand why you need your partner to have your backWritten by stepmoms for stepmoms, these tips, anecdotes, and words of advice will help you find success and support within your new family.We are the Stepmoms' Club — your club — and we're here to help you.

  • Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship

    Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship
    Mira Kirshenbaum

    There are many books that promise to help you fix a bad relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should even try—or if you need to go.Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:• What sins are forgivable and which ones are unpardonable?• Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself?• What is your sex life really like, and how important is it?• Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable?Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.

  • 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child, second edition: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child s Difficult Behavior, Edition 2

    10 Days to a Less Defiant Child, second edition: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child’s Difficult Behavior, Edition 2
    Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D.

    The popular, powerful guide to help parents regain control over a defiant child or teenagerOccasional clashes between parents and children are not uncommon, but when defiant behavior-including tantrums, resistance to chores, and negativity-becomes chronic, it causes big problems within the family. In 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child, family and child psychologist Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein shares a groundbreaking ten-day program to help parents understand their child's behavior and regain control of their household.In this updated edition, parents will learn how to face new challenges, including defiance resulting from excessive technology use (even to the point of addiction) and the stress of modern family life. Dr. Bernstein explains what causes defiance in kids and why it's so destructive to the family, then offers parents a step-by-step guide on how to reduce conflict and end upsetting behaviors.

  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country s Foremost Relationship Expert

    The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert
    John Gottman, PhD

    With more than a million copies sold worldwide, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman's unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else.Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

  • Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You Workbook: Workbook - Second Edition

    Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You Workbook: Workbook – Second Edition
    Jordan Paul

    A companion to the best-selling book of the same title, this popular, newly revised workbook helps couples create a deeply satisfying, more intimate relationship.A companion to the best-selling book of the same title, this popular, newly revised workbook helps couples create a deeply satisfying, more intimate relationship. Focusing on the ever-present dynamic of conflict-and the process of working through it-the authors guide couples in getting to the root of recurring disagreements and destructive behaviors. Self-assessment exercises and couple activities help readers recognize unloving responses, move past fear, identify self-protective and negative beliefs, break down power struggles, and reach out in forgiveness. The principles outlined in this powerful, easy-to-use workbook have helped thousands of couples and families create more loving relationships.Key features and benefitsa proven best-sellerhighly recommended by marriage therapistsincludes exercises for couples to explore core beliefs and values

  • Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life

    Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life
    Laura Markham

    Popular parenting expert Dr. Laura Markham, author of PEACEFUL PARENTS, HAPPY SIBLINGS, has garnered a large and loyal readership around the world, thanks to her simple, insightful approach that values the emotional bond between parent and child. As any parent of more than one child knows, though, it’s challenging for even the most engaged parent to maintain harmony and a strong connection when competition, tempers, and irritation run high. In this highly anticipated guide, Dr. Markham presents simple yet powerful ways to cut through the squabbling and foster a loving, supportive bond between siblings, while giving each child the vital connection that he or she needs. PEACEFUL PARENT, HAPPY SIBLINGS includes hands-on, research-based advice on: • Creating deep connections with each one of your children, so that each truly believes that you couldn’t possibly love anyone else more. • Fostering a loving family culture that encourages laughter and minimizes fighting • Teaching your children healthy emotional self-management and conflict resolution skills—so that they can work things out with each other, get their own needs met and respect the needs of others • Helping your kids forge a close lifelong sibling bond—as well as the relationship skills they will need for a life of healthy friendships, work relationships, and eventually their own family bonds.

  • Why Won t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

    Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts
    Harriet Lerner

    “If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won’t You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer.” —Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Rising Strong “Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose, and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see ‘the apology’ in quite the same way.” —Esther Perel, MA, LMFT author of Mating in Captivity Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language—I’m sorry—and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust.Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies—and why some people won’t give them—for more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt we’ve inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful “I’m sorry” and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury. Why Won’t You Apologize? also addresses the compelling needs of the injured party—the one who has been hurt by someone who won’t apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right.

  • Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed, Edition 2

    Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed, Edition 2
    Wendy T. Behary

    Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one—so ignoring them isn’t really a practical solution. They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them. Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist. This book will help you learn to meet your own needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe. This new edition also includes new chapters on dealing with narcissistic women, aggressive and abusive narcissists, strategies for safety, and the link between narcissism and sex addiction. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.

  • The Dance of Anger: A Woman s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

    The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
    Harriet Lerner

    The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception."Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

  • Overcoming Passive-Aggression, Revised Edition: How to Stop Hidden Anger from Spoiling Your Relationships, Career, and Happiness

    Overcoming Passive-Aggression, Revised Edition: How to Stop Hidden Anger from Spoiling Your Relationships, Career, and Happiness
    Tim Murphy, Ph.D.

    THE COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE TO OVERCOME HIDDEN ANGER IN YOUR LIFE. Hostile humor, negative undertones, and silent standoffs–nearly everyone has experienced hidden anger at some point, whether at home, with friends, or at work or school. Even if it's done to avoid open conflict and keep the peace, habitually concealing anger becomes insidious. When people don't express their true views and emotions, it undermines harmony and can actually cause physical and psychological harm. Tim Murphy and Loriann Oberlin explain what passive-aggression is; show how to spot the controlling, depressed, and self-absorbed behaviors that identify it; and share assertive communication strategies to overcome it, with: The latest research on emotional mismanagement, mood disorders, and chronic negativity Entirely new chapters about children and teens, divorce, and how to seek professional help Advice on how to avoid the pitfalls of social media, texting, and online communication Insights for educators, managers, legal professionals, and others A new appendix for clinicians, physicians, and healthcare providers Whether you need practical ways to manage your own anger or strategies to cope with this behavior in others, Overcoming Passive-Aggression offers powerful tools for enriched relationships and personal growth.

  • Crazy: A Father s Search Through America s Mental Health Madness

    Crazy: A Father’s Search Through America’s Mental Health Madness
    Pete Earley

    “A magnificent gift to those of us who love someone who has a mental illness…Earley has used his considerable skills to meticulously research why the mental health system is so profoundly broken.”—Bebe Moore Campbell, author of 72 Hour HoldFormer Washington Post reporter Pete Earley had written extensively about the criminal justice system. But it was only when his own son—in the throes of a manic episode—broke into a neighbor's house that he learned what happens to mentally ill people who break a law. This is the Earley family's compelling story, a troubling look at bureaucratic apathy and the countless thousands who suffer confinement instead of care, brutal conditions instead of treatment, in the “revolving doors” between hospital and jail. With mass deinstitutionalization, large numbers of state mental patients are homeless or in jail-an experience little better than the horrors of a century ago. Earley takes us directly into that experience—and into that of a father and award-winning journalist trying to fight for a better way.

  • The Good News About Bad Behavior: Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever-And What to Do About It

    The Good News About Bad Behavior: Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever-And What to Do About It
    Katherine Reynolds Lewis

    The current model of parental discipline is as outdated as a rotary phone.Why don't our kids do what we want them to do? Parents often take the blame for misbehavior, but this obscures a broader trend: in our modern, highly connected age, children have less self-control than ever. About half of the current generation of children will develop a mood or behavioral disorder or a substance addiction by age eighteen. Contemporary kids need to learn independence and responsibility, yet our old ideas of punishments and rewards are preventing this from happening.To stem this growing crisis of self-regulation, journalist and parenting expert Katherine Reynolds Lewis articulates what she calls The Apprenticeship Model, a new theory of discipline that centers on learning the art of self-control. Blending new scientific research and powerful individual stories of change, Lewis shows that, if we trust our children to face consequences, they will learn to adapt and moderate their own behavior. She watches as chaotic homes become peaceful, bewildered teachers see progress, and her own family grows and evolves in light of these new ideas. You'll recognize your own family in Lewis's sensitive, realistic stories, and you'll find a path to making everyone in your home more capable, kinder, and happier–including yourself.

  • Roadmap to Reconciliation: Moving Communities into Unity, Wholeness and Justice

    Roadmap to Reconciliation: Moving Communities into Unity, Wholeness and Justice
    Brenda Salter McNeil

    Missio Alliance Essential Reading List of 2015 We can see the injustice and inequality in our lives and in the world. We are ready to rise up. But how, exactly, do we do this? How does one reconcile? What we need is a clear sense of direction. Based on her extensive consulting experience with churches, colleges and organizations, Rev. Dr. Brenda Salter McNeil has created a roadmap to show us the way. She guides us through the common topics of discussion and past the bumpy social terrain and political boundaries that will arise. In these pages she voices her call to all believers: "It's time for the followers of Jesus to embark on the prophetic journey that leads to reconciliation and transformation around the world. Many of us may already be aware of the need for reconciliation in our own backyards. . . . We cannot ignore the plight of the people around us and as globalization continues its relentless march onward, we cannot turn a blind eye to the world at large either. We have to face the realities here at home and we must also embrace the stories of people all around the world." Each chapter lays out the next step in the journey. With reflection questions and exercises at the end of each chapter, it's ideal to read together with your church or organization. If you are ready to take the next step into unity, wholeness and justice, then this is the book for you.

  • How to Have That Difficult Conversation: Gaining the Skills for Honest and Meaningful Communication

    How to Have That Difficult Conversation: Gaining the Skills for Honest and Meaningful Communication
    Henry Cloud

    Full of practical tips and how-tos, this book will help you make your relationships better, deepen your intimacy with people you care for, and cultivate more love, understanding, and respect between you and others.Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. They have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don't know how to have difficult conversations, and we see confrontation as scary or adversarial.Authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend take the principles from their award-winning and bestselling book, Boundaries, and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships in order to:Show how healthy confrontation can improve relationshipsPresent the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversationProvide tips on preparing for the conversationShow how to tell people what you want, stop bad behavior, and deal with counterattackGive actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your parents, and more!This book is a practical handbook on positive confrontation that will help you finally have that difficult conversation you've been avoiding. Includes a discussion guide.

  • The High-Conflict Custody Battle: Protect Yourself and Your Kids from a Toxic Divorce, False Accusations, and Parental Alienation

    The High-Conflict Custody Battle: Protect Yourself and Your Kids from a Toxic Divorce, False Accusations, and Parental Alienation
    Amy J. L. Baker

    Is your ex-spouse trying to gain custody of your kids? Has he or she launched a campaign to make you look like a bad parent, both in the eyes of your children and the law? You aren’t alone. Unfortunately, high-conflict custody battles are all-too-common in today’s world. So how can you arm yourself with the mental and legal resources needed to survive this difficult time and keep your kids safe?In The High-Conflict Custody Battle, a team of legal and psychology experts present a practical guidebook for people like you who are engaged in a high-conflict custody battle. If you are dealing with an overtly hostile, inflammatory, deceitful, or manipulative ex-spouse, you will learn how to find and work with an attorney and prepare for a custody evaluation. The book also provides helpful tips you can use to defend yourself against false accusations, and gives a realistic portrayal of what to expect during a legal fight.Going through a divorce is hard, but going through a custody battle can feel like war. Don’t go in unprepared. With this book as your guide, you will be able to navigate this difficult process and learn powerful skills that will help you maintain a healthy relationship with your kids, fight unfair accusations, and uphold your rights as a parent.

  • If I Have to Tell You One More Time...: The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids To Listen Without Nagging, Remindi ng, or Yelling

    If I Have to Tell You One More Time…: The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids To Listen Without Nagging, Remindi ng, or Yelling
    Amy McCready

    The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids To Listen Without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling Why does it feel sometimes as if our children have special powers that enable them to tune us out completely? You ask your child to do her homework, get ready for school or bedtime. You think she heard you but . . . no response. You’ve tried everything—time-outs, nagging, counting to three—and nothing seems to work. In this invaluable book, Amy McCready, founder of the popular online parenting course Positive Parenting Solutions, presents a nag-and-scream-free program for compassionately yet effectively, correcting your children’s bad behavior.McCready draws on Adlerian psychology and Positive Discipline, which focuses on the central idea that every human being has a basic need to feel connected and empowered—children being no exception to the rule. According to McCready, when this need isn’t met in positive ways, kids resort to negative methods. In this book she provides parents with a virtual toolbox of strategies they can use to give their children the attention and power they crave—and do away with the misbehaving that adults dread.

  • Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager: 7 Steps to Reestablish Authority and Reclaim Love

    Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager: 7 Steps to Reestablish Authority and Reclaim Love
    Scott P. Sells

    Every teenager rebels against authority at some point–talks back, breaks curfew, or disobeys. But literally millions of teens take their rebellion to a point where it disrupts their families and endangers their own futures or even their lives. If one of these teens is yours, you've probably lived through years of conflicting advice and pat solutions that don't last. Finally, this breakthrough guide from a master therapist will show you the seven steps to positive, permanent change for you and your teenager: 1. Learn the real reasons for teen misbehavior. 2. Make an ironclad contract to stop that behavior. 3. Troubleshoot future problems. 4. End button-pushing. 5. Stop the "seven aces" — from disrespect to threats of violence. 6. Mobilize outside help. 7. Reclaim lost love within the family.Clear, compassionate, and packed with real-life solutions to real-life problems, Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager gives parents the tools they need to turn their families' lives around for good.

  • How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk

    How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk
    Adele Faber

    The renowned #1 New York Times bestselling authors share their advice and expertise with parents and teens in this accessible, indispensable guide to surviving adolescence.Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish transformed parenting with their breakthrough, bestselling books Siblings Without Rivalry and How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk. Now, they return with this essential guide that tackles the tough issues teens and parents face today.Filled with straightforward advice and written in their trademark, down-to-earth style sure to appeal to both parents and teens, this all-new volume offers both innovative, easy-to-implement suggestions and proven techniques to build the foundation for lasting relationships. From curfews and cliques to sex and drugs, it gives parents the tools to help their children safely navigate the often stormy years of adolescence.

  • On Violence

    On Violence
    Hannah Arendt

    An analysis of the nature, causes, and significance of violence in the second half of the twentieth century. Arendt also reexamines the relationship between war, politics, violence, and power. “Incisive, deeply probing, written with clarity and grace, it provides an ideal framework for understanding the turbulence of our times”(Nation). Index.

  • Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex: What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You

    Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex: What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You
    Amy J. L. Baker

    Protect your child from alienation and loyalty conflicts. During and after a difficult divorce, it’s easy for your relationship with your kids to become strained—especially if you are dealing with a toxic ex who bad-mouths you in front of your children, accuses you of being a bad parent, and even attempts to “replace” you with a new partner in your children’s lives. Your children may become confused, conflicted, angry, anxious, or depressed—and you may feel powerless. But there is help. In this guide, you’ll discover a positive parenting approach to dealing with a hostile ex-spouse. You'll learn the best ways to protect your children from painful loyalty conflicts, how to avoid parental alienation syndrome, and techniques for talking to your children in a way that fosters honesty and trust. Co-parenting with a toxic ex can be challenging, but with the right tools you can protect your kids and make your relationship with them stronger than ever.

  • My Husband Doesn t Love Me and He s Texting Someone Else: The Love Coach Guide to Winning Him Back

    My Husband Doesn’t Love Me and He’s Texting Someone Else: The Love Coach Guide to Winning Him Back
    Andrew G. Marshall

    When a husband tells his wife, or she suspects, that he no longer ioves her she may feel as though her world is ending but in this positive and powerful book, marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall has a message of hope. It is possible to turn a relationship around and emerge with a stronger bond. In Part One, he explains:How to get to the bottom of why he's fallen out of love.What's really going through his mind.Why your husband has turned into a stranger.The signs that show if he's depressed and what to do about it.How to build better communication and start improving your relationship.In Part Two, he discusses how to tell if there's another woman and gauge whether she really is a threat, including:The six types of other woman, from 'a spark' to 'the love of his life'.Tailored strategies for dealing with each type.Five worst and best reactions after uncovering what's really going on.How to keep calm even when provoked.How to combat the poison that she's slipping into your relationship.When to keep fighting and when to make a tactical withdrawal

  • We Don t Talk Anymore: Healing after Parents and Their Adult Children Become Estranged

    We Don’t Talk Anymore: Healing after Parents and Their Adult Children Become Estranged
    Kathy McCoy

    Understand the painful silence of estrangement and finally heal the riftEstrangement from an adult son or daughter is one of a parent's worst nightmares. Becoming estranged from a parent can be equally painful for an adult child, who may miss the relationship they once shared. For both it can mean angry silences and anguished days and nights wondering what went wrong.Written by Kathy McCoy, one of the nation's more revered experts on family relationships, We Don't Talk Anymore is a insightful and relevant new exploration of estrangement for both parents and adult children. Each chapter also provides compassionate, practical tips focused on what both parents and adult children can do, including: Finding courage to reach out to your loved one Understanding the conflict and discovering a new and fulfilling connection Letting go and rebuilding your lifeFamilies deserve clarity and understanding. We Don't Talk Anymore will show you those first steps toward dealing with a painful topic and finally healing.

  • Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict

    Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict
    Jonathan Robinson

    Create lasting harmony and keep love alive with psychotherapist and bestselling author Jonathan Robinson's powerful and simple methods for effective couples’ communication. For anyone who wants to enhance their relationship by learning to communicate with less blame and more understanding Communication Miracles for Couples will show you how.In just a few minutes couples will learn to:Feel totally lovedNever argue againGet your partner to really hear youRepair broken trustLearn the secret of the Acknowledgment FormulaOriginally published in 1997 and continuously in print with more than 100,000 sold Communications Miracles for Couples has helped hundreds of thousands of couples repair their relationships. Whether you are looking to enhance your relationship or are deeply mired in conflict, these techniques can help anyone develop more effective communication with a spouse or partner.

  • Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

    Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
    Cheryl Strayed

    This bestselling book from the author of Wild collects the best of The Rumpus's Dear Sugar advice columns plus never-before-published pieces. Rich with humor, insight, compassion—and absolute honesty—this book is a balm for everything life throws our way.Life can be hard: your lover cheats on you; you lose a family member; you can’t pay the bills—and it can be great: you’ve had the hottest sex of your life; you get that plum job; you muster the courage to write your novel. Sugar—the once-anonymous online columnist at The Rumpus, now revealed as Cheryl Strayed, author of the bestselling memoir Wild—is the person thousands turn to for advice.

  • When Kids Call the Shots

    When Kids Call the Shots
    Sean Grover

    Are your kids pummeling you with demands and bossing you around with impunity? Have your once-precious preschoolers become rebellious, entitled, and disrespectful to authority? How did we get here? What went wrong? While there are plenty of so-called experts who might try to validate your convictions that you have done all you can to “fix” your “difficult” children, the hard truth is, they’re not doing you any favors by placing the responsibility solely on your children.Parenting struggles rarely originate from just one side. Instead, they erupt at the volatile intersection of a child's personality with a parent's own insecurities and behaviors. To put it another way, if you want to fix your rebellious and disrespectful child, you need to start by fixing yourself. In When Kids Call the Shots, therapist and parenting expert Sean Grover untangles the forces driving family dysfunction, and helps parents assume their leadership roles once again. Parents will discover:• Three common bullying styles used by kids• Parenting styles that contribute to power balances• Critical testing periods in a child’s development• Coping mechanisms that backfire• Personalized plans for calmly exerting authority in any scenario• And much more!The solution to any problem begins with learning to control what you can control. In parenting, you’ve already learned how impossible it is to control your kids. So begin by controlling you!

  • The Narcissist s Playbook: How to Identify, Disarm, and Protect Yourself from Narcissists, Sociopaths, Psychopaths, and Other Types of Manipulative and Abusive People

    The Narcissist’s Playbook: How to Identify, Disarm, and Protect Yourself from Narcissists, Sociopaths, Psychopaths, and Other Types of Manipulative and Abusive People
    Dana Morningstar

    Do you have a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath in your life, or think that you might?Do you continually feel anxious around someone in your life, but can’t pinpoint why?Do conversations seem to go off track, leaving you feeling knocked off balance and confused?Does it feel like they are making your life a living hell, but they insist that you are too sensitive, crazy, or to blame?Perhaps you know you are being manipulated or abused, but don’t know how to make it stop.The Narcissist’s Playbook can help. Dana Morningstar is a domestic violence advocate, author, podcaster, YouTuber, speaker, and group leader. She writes from personal as well as professional experience in the field of domestic violence awareness, narcissistic abuse, and advocacy. Some of the topics covered in The Narcissist’s Playbook are:-What manipulation is and isn’t.-How to spot manipulative behaviors early (and why most people struggle with this).-How and why people get caught up with manipulators, and why they have a hard time breaking free.-How to identify the emotional “hook” that is keeping you stuck in manipulation and what you can do about it.- How to effectively disable manipulation as it is happening. – How to identify the common personality traits that are frequently exploited by manipulators. You can take back your life. The Narcissist’s Playbook tells you how.

  • Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You: Second Edition

    Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You: Second Edition
    Jordan Paul

    This classic text for couples interested in creating freer, more joyful, and profoundly intimate relationships explores the delicate balance of being true to oneself and being loved by another.Newly updated by the authors, here is the classic text for couples interested in creating freer, more joyful, and profoundly intimate relationships. In their best-selling book about couple relationships, Jordan Paul and Margaret Paul explore the delicate balance of being true to oneself and being loved by another. While couples think they are fighting about money, sex, or time, the authors reveal how such conflicts are almost always more deeply rooted and related to issues of self-protection. Offering a solid framework for conflict resolution, the authors guide couples in working through fears and false beliefs that can block the expression of loving feelings. Stories of couples and examples of dialogue validate readers- feelings and experiences.Key features and benefitsa proven best-sellerhighly recommended by marriage therapistsincludes exercises for couples to explore core beliefs and values

  • Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man: Coping with Hidden Aggression--from the Bedroom to

    Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man: Coping with Hidden Aggression–from the Bedroom to
    Scott Wetzler

    With more than 100,000 copies in print, Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man draws on case histories from clinical psychologist Scott Wetzler’s practice to help you identify the destructive behavior, the root causes and motivations, and solutions.Do you know one of these men? The catch-me-if-you-can lover… Phil’s romantic and passionate one minute, distant and cold the next. The deviously manipulative coworker or boss… Jack denies resenting Nora’s rapid rise in the company, but when they’re assigned to work together on a project, he undermines her. The obstructionist, procrastinating husband… Bob keeps telling his wife he’ll finish the painting job he began years ago, but he never seems to get around to it. These are all classic examples of the passive-aggressive man. This personality syndrome—in which hostility wears a mask of passivity—is currently the number one source of men’s problems in relationships and on the job. In Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man, Scott Wetzler draws upon numerous case histories from his own practice to explain how and why the passive-aggressive man thinks, feels, and acts the way he does. Dr. Wetzler also offers advice on: • How to avoid playing victim, manager, or rescuer to the “P-A”• How to get his anger and fear into the open• How to help the “P-A” become a better lover, husband, and father• How to survive passive-aggressive game playing on the job Living with a man’s passive aggression can be an emotional seesaw ride. But armed with this book, you can avoid the bumpy landings.

  • The Guide to Honest Parenting

    The Guide to Honest Parenting
    Daniel Craven

    Knowing what to do or say in a situation gives a parent, grandparent, or teacher confidence, calmness, and effectiveness. Do you wish for your child to become a person who has a happy and productive life? Would you like for your child or teen to trust you, communicate well with you and want to have a positive relationship with you? Do you hope that one day, your child or teen will become an adult who can take care of himself / herself? Is your child or teen on that path, now? Would you like to learn some simple, yet effective ways of getting your child or teen on this path and building a stronger bond with them? The Guide to Honest Parenting is a revolutionary, yet common sense approach to parenting children and teens with behavioral and emotional issues and improving relationships. This book contains information that can also help parents of kids without these challenges to raise children who make better decisions now, and later in life. It is designed to help parents, stepparents, foster parents, grandparents, and teachers of children diagnosed with ADD, ADHD, ODD, Conduct Disorder, and many other diagnoses…OR… no diagnosis at all. This is not just for parents of kids with behavior problems, but those parents will appreciate the relief and seeing progress the most. If your child or adolescent is angry, secretive, dishonest, argumentative, aggressive, verbally or physically abusive, destructive, disrespectful, etc., then you truly need to read this book. This parenting style uses no tricks, or "reverse psychology." If you've tried programs that don't work, this is your answer. It's effective, easy to understand, and offers information and help that you won't find elsewhere.

  • Talk to Me Like I m Someone You Love: Relationship Repair in a Flash

    Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love: Relationship Repair in a Flash
    Nancy Dreyfus, Psy.D.

    “The most crucial relationship advice book since Men Are from Mars.”—Erin Meanley, Glamour.com A groundbreaking, interactive relationship tool that literally places in the hands of couples the power to transform chronically frustrating relationship dynamics. We've all been there. A conversation with a loved one escalates into conflict. Voices rise to a fever pitch and angry, accusative words fly through the air. At times like these, it seems impossible to find the magic words that will lead to healing. Enter Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love. A psychotherapist with decades of experience in counseling couples, Nancy Dreyfus hit upon the revolutionary practice outlined in this book during a couples-therapy session in which a wife’s unrelenting criticism of her husband was causing him to become emotionally withdrawn. In the midst of this, Dreyfus found herself scribbling on a scrap of paper, “Talk to me like I'm someone you love,” and gestured to the husband that he should hold it up. He did and within seconds the familiar power differential between the two shifted, and a gentler, more genuine connection emerged. Dreyfus was startled, then intrigued, and then motivated to create a tool that could help others. This book features more than one hundred of Dreyfus's "flash cards for real life," written statements that express what we wish we could communicate to the person we love, but either can't find the right words or the right tone in which to say it. The statements include: • Taking responsibility: "I realize I'm overreacting. Can you give me a minute to get sane again?" • Apologizing: "I know I've really hurt you. What can I do to help you trust me again?" • Loving: "You are precious, and I get that I haven't been treating you like you are." A one-of-a-kind, practical relationship tool, Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love will help couples to stop arguing and begin healing.

  • Taken

    Taken
    Rosie Lewis

    Experienced foster carer, Rosie Lewis, takes on the heart-breaking case of Megan, a baby born with a drug addiction and a cleft palate. Addicted to drugs from birth because of her mother’s substance abuse during pregnancy, new-born Megan is taken into Rosie’s loving care. Rosie is supposed to help Megan find her new permanent home, but it turns out that Megan has already found her ‘forever mummy’ in Rosie. Rosie grows incredibly attached to Megan and applies to adopt her, but the system refuses her in favour of a young couple and Rosie is devastated. Against all her instincts, Rosie does her job and prepares Megan for her new ‘forever family’, but everything about Megan leaving feels wrong. When Rosie learns a few months later that Megan’s adoption has broken down, she is saddened but also filled with hope – will this little girl be allowed to return to her true ‘forever home’?

  • NOT Just Friends : Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

    NOT “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
    Shirley Glass

    One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it.You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

  • Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too

    Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
    Adele Faber

    The #1 New York Times best-selling guide to reducing hostility and generating goodwill between siblings. Already best-selling authors with How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish turned their minds to the battle of the siblings. Parents themselves, they were determined to figure out how to help their children get along. The result was Siblings Without Rivalry. This wise, groundbreaking book gives parents the practical tools they need to cope with conflict, encourage cooperation, reduce competition, and make it possible for children to experience the joys of their special relationship. With humor and understanding—much gained from raising their own children—Faber and Mazlish explain how and when to intervene in fights, provide suggestions on how to help children channel their hostility into creative outlets, and demonstrate how to treat children unequally and still be fair. Updated to incorporate fresh thoughts after years of conducting workshops for parents and professionals, this edition also includes a new afterword.

  • Getting Back Together: The Secret to Seduce and Make Your Ex to Fall in Love With You Again

    Getting Back Together: The Secret to Seduce and Make Your Ex to Fall in Love With You Again
    Deanna M. Roberts

    Are you despondent over a recent break up? Do you want your ex back but are afraid that they will not give you the time of day? Before you start to beg them to take you back, read this book! There is a right way to get your ex back and wrong way. Begging and pleading never works but seduction does. Use the tips in our book to make your ex fall in love with you all over again. Subtle seduction is the key to getting back what you lost. With this book you will be able to get your ex back, building a whole new relationship with your ex. With just a few changes, you can make yourself irresistible to your ex, who will happily want to come back into your life. If you want your ex back and are willing to work for it, you will get them back. Find out how to get over a break up by getting your ex back.

  • Advances and Techniques in Restoration Therapy

    Advances and Techniques in Restoration Therapy
    Terry D. Hargrave

    Advances and Techniques in Restoration Therapy focuses on the practical elements of the Restoration Therapy Model to help mental health professionals working with individuals, couples, and families, to restore broken identities and senses of safety, and to move toward action that is functional and healing. Richly illustrated with case examples from experienced clinicians, this volume brings new insights and a range of established and emerging therapeutic techniques to the framework and Restoration Therapy community. This is an innovative and much-needed step-by-step manual, which will provide marriage and family therapists and counselors with practical ways of applying key interventions to varied situations of pain, to help clients find functional, healing solutions with integrity.

  • The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth

    The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth
    Christopher L. Heuertz

    As featured in the Fall 2018 edition of The Magnolia Journal and on the Rise Together podcast with Dave and Rachel Hollis, For the Love podcast with Jen Hatmaker, Typology podcast with Ian Morgan Cron, and Sleeping At Last podcast with Ryan O'Neal.How to understand the 'why' behind your enneagram type.Chris Heuertz’ life was forever changed after he learned about the enneagram 15 years ago, and since then he has trained under some of the great living Enneagram masters including Father Richard Rohr, Russ Hudson, Marion Gilbert, and Helen Palmer. Today he leads enneagram workshops all over the world. Join Chris as he shows you how this ancient tool can help you awaken to the gifts God has given you, find freedom from your personal patterns of sin and fear, and grow in acceptance of your identity as you grow with God.The Sacred Enneagram is a trustworthy, richly insightful guide to finding yourself in the enneagram’s 9-type profiles, and applying this practical wisdom to transform your life. Far more than a personality test, author Chris Heuertz writes, the enneagram is a sacred map to the soul. The enneagram offers a bright path to cutting through the internal clutter and finding our way back to God and to our true identity as God created us.In conversational style with compelling stories, The Sacred Enneagram will show youHow to understand the 'why' behind your type, beyond caricatures and stereotypesHow to align your type with prayerHow to identify and find freedom from self-destructive patternsHow to grow in reasoning abilityHow to face your past and step toward healingHow to awaken your unique gifts to serve today’s broken worldChris’s own journey with the enneagram is an accessible introduction and exploration of how the enneagram can change your life, because to the extent that we are transformed, the world will be transformed.

  • The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships

    The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships
    Suzanne Stabile

    Most of us have no idea how others see or process their experiences. And that can make relationships hard, whether with intimate partners, with friends, or in our professional lives. Understanding the motivations and dynamics of these different personality types can be the key that unlocks sometimes mystifying behavior in others—and in ourselves. This book from Suzanne Stabile on the nine Enneagram types and how they behave and experience relationships will guide readers into deeper insights about themselves, their types, and others' personalities so that they can have healthier, more life-giving relationships. No one is better equipped than Suzanne Stabile, coauthor, with Ian Morgan Cron, of The Road Back to You, to share the Enneagram's wisdom on how relationships work—or don’t. Why do Sixes seem so intimidated and put off by Eights, who only wish the Sixes would stop mulling things over and take action? Why do Fives seem so unavailable, even to their closest family and friends, while Twos seem to feel everybody else’s feelings but their own and end up irritating people who don’t want their help? How in the world can Fours be so open and loving to you one day and restrained and distant other times? The Enneagram not only answers these questions but gives us a way out of our usual finger pointing and judging of other people—and finding them wanting, perplexing, or impossible. Suzanne's generous, sometimes humorous, and always insightful approach reveals why all the types behave as they do. This book offers help in fostering more loving, mature, and compassionate relationships with everyone in our lives.

  • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

    Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
    Sue Johnson

    Heralded by the New York Times and Time as the couples therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond.This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from "Recognizing the Demon Dialogue" to "Revisiting a Rocky Moment" — and uses them as touch points for seven healing conversations.Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

  • Save Your Marriage System: The Secret to Stop Divorce and Make Your Spouse Want You Back

    Save Your Marriage System: The Secret to Stop Divorce and Make Your Spouse Want You Back
    Erin J. Stanley

    Is your marriage or relationship on the rocks and you feel helpless and scared? Maybe you know there is a problem and you want to address it before things get worse. Maybe your spouse has already said that they want to end it. This can feel like the bottom has dropped out of your world but it does not have to be the end of your relationship. Your marriage can be saved and with this book, you will find out how to bring your marriage back on track. Learn why couple's therapy is not always the answer, learn how to communicate without fighting and learn how to work together to find your way back to a happy marriage. There are things that you need to do right away to help save your marriage and there are things that you must never do. Time is of the essence so get this book and learn how your marriage can be saved today.

  • I Only Say This Because I Love You: How the Way We Talk Can Make or Break Family Relationships Throughout Our Lives

    I Only Say This Because I Love You: How the Way We Talk Can Make or Break Family Relationships Throughout Our Lives
    Deborah Tannen

    Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? In this illuminating book, Deborah Tannen, the linguist and and bestselling author of You Just Don't Understand and many other books, reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic even when we're all adults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages —unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said. Presenting real conversations from people's lives, Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom. This eye-opening book explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers; and why mothers feel they can't open their mouths around their grown daughters; why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives; and much, much more. By helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age.

  • The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children

    The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children
    Ross W. Greene, PhD

    A groundbreaking approach to understanding and parenting children who frequently exhibit severe fits of temper and other intractable behaviors, from a distinguished clinician and pioneer in this field.What’s an explosive child? A child who responds to routine problems with extreme frustration—crying, screaming, swearing, kicking, hitting, biting, spitting, destroying property, and worse. A child whose frequent, severe outbursts leave his or her parents feeling frustrated, scared, worried, and desperate for help. Most of these parents have tried everything-reasoning, explaining, punishing, sticker charts, therapy, medication—but to no avail. They can’t figure out why their child acts the way he or she does; they wonder why the strategies that work for other kids don’t work for theirs; and they don’t know what to do instead.Dr. Ross Greene, a distinguished clinician and pioneer in the treatment of kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren’t attention-seeking, manipulative, or unmotivated, and their parents aren’t passive, permissive pushovers. Rather, explosive kids are lacking some crucial skills in the domains of flexibility/adaptability, frustration tolerance, and problem solving, and they require a different approach to parenting. Throughout this compassionate, insightful, and practical book, Dr. Greene provides a new conceptual framework for understanding their difficulties, based on research in the neurosciences. He explains why traditional parenting and treatment often don’t work with these children, and he describes what to do instead. Instead of relying on rewarding and punishing, Dr. Greene’s Collaborative Problem Solving model promotes working with explosive children to solve the problems that precipitate explosive episodes, and teaching these kids the skills they lack.

  • How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids

    How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids
    Jancee Dunn

    A hilariously candid account of one woman's quest to bring her post-baby marriage back from the brink, with life-changing, real-world advice. "Get this for your pregnant friends, or yourself." –People Recommended by Nicole Cliffe in Slate Featured in People Picks A Red Tricycle Best Baby and Toddler Parenting Book of the year One of Mother magazine's favorite parenting books of the year How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the 'expert' at changing a diaper?Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage – and the way their marriage will affect their child. Enter Dunn, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today. On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country's most renowned couples' and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an "explosive situation." Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate–and rebuild–your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children. Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn't know you had.

  • He Will Find You: Book 2

    He Will Find You: Book 2
    Diane Jeffrey

    Read the new crime thriller that reviewers have called: ‘Brilliant!’‘Unputdownable!’‘Heart-stopping!’‘One heck of a read’‘Just so addictive!’ No matter where you hide… Kaitlyn Best is stuck in a rut. So when she discovers she's pregnant after a one-night-stand with Alex, her school crush, she throws caution to the wind and accepts his offer to make a new life together in the depths of the Lake District, far from her home… and her demons. He will find you. But Alex is not what he seems. And when Kaitlyn's world begins to crumble before her eyes, she realises she barely knows the man she has agreed to spend the rest of her life with. Since Alex won't tell her his secrets, Kaitlyn vows to find them out for herself. But when she uncovers the truth, she realises she has made a terrible mistake… Following her 2017 bestselling psychological thriller Those Who Lie, Diane Jeffrey is back with another chilling story of domestic suspense, perfect for fans of BA Paris and Sandie Jones. Praise for He Will Find You ‘Tense and compelling, a genuinely thrilling read’Elizabeth Haynes ‘Brimming with tension, riddled with doubt and suspicion, insidious and compelling with a terrifying ending that had me catching my breath’Sue Fortin ‘A tense, gripping domestic noir that shows just how fast the dream of a new life can turn into your worst nightmare’T.M. Logan

  • Defending Your Marriage: The Reality of Spiritual Battle

    Defending Your Marriage: The Reality of Spiritual Battle
    Tim Muehlhoff

    Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you're facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God. In our marital challenges, we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against powers and principalities that try to separate us from God and each other. But fear not. Learn to stand firm in Christ and trust in the Lord to deliver us from evil.